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We can see that if someone is attempting
to harm us our natural instincts tell us to fight. If the possibility is
available for us to leave the presence of the human being without harm,
then we often resort to this method first.
However, in most cases, we are not able to
walk away then it is time to pull out the sword and battle. If we do not
have, anger pushes us to protect then we are in a world of trouble. It
takes a real person to walk away from a fight, but what if your back is
against the wall. How are you going to handle it? Effective talk can go
a long way in a fight. If you know how to use your words with
assertiveness, you can walk away from most battles. There’s a slow words
and quick words, use slow words to slow down your emotions.
However, if you do not have this ability
your fist better be up and ready to attack. One of the best solutions I
found for avoiding both anger and harm is to remove myself permanently
from bad influences and environments. Walk away from that situation.
This not only prevents problem it also helps me to function accordingly
in life. The problem is we cannot always avoid persons that disrespect
us, betray us, cheat us, lie to us, or even threaten us.
Therefore, we must learn a way to use our
anger positive, rather than continue a way that makes matters worse. We
can see all the elements that invoke anger when we travel, at home, at
school and so forth. There is no way to escape problems, or people that
annoy us, therefore, we are a system of angry people needing anger
management skills. When a person is angry, his physical tells him or her
that a threat is made against the being. The body will respond, acting
out with accelerated palpitations of the heart, the pupils flare, the
breath increases or decreases, and our tone is louder when we speak.
The body will tell us with dry mouth and
tension of the body that we are mad. If two people engage, in an angry
moment, it is best to step back and deal with the problem once you have
both calmed down. If a person has angry issues it is, best to tell the
person I will talk with you later, since this is going nowhere. Try to
use positive talk to calm the person, rather than joining in the heated
dispute. If the person has, a problem with anger the last thing you want
is to get hurt mentally, verbally, or physically. Anger depends on the
person’s attitude, and if that person is negative, you can bet his or
her level of anger will be out of control.
A person with anger
problems will often attack by insulting you verbally, striking you
physically, or mentally belittling you. If you are dealing with this
type of person, you will need to learn
techniques to deal with this
person, unless you plan to leave them behind. Most of this type of
person views the world as a source of evil. The entire world around them
is responsible for the person feeling angry, since the actions forced
them to think this way. In light, this person is correct to a degree;
however, he or she has not learned how to manage their anger. When a
person feels like this, they often neglect seeing that their success is
a failure in many cases because of their behaviors. Therefore, we need
them to see that anger management is controlling anger. So tomorrow when
you wake up in the morning, things will be better, especially your
anger.
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