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1) Disgust
One does not usually equate the word "disgust" with positive action. And
yet properly channeled, disgust can change a person's life. The person
who feels disgusted has reached a point of no return. He or she is ready
to throw down the gauntlet at life and say, "I've had it!" That's what I
said after many humiliating experiences at age 25, I said, "I don't want
to live like this anymore. I've had it with being broke. I've had it
with being embarrassed, and I've had it with lying."
Yes, productive feelings of disgust come when a person says, "Enough is
enough."
The "guy" has finally had it with mediocrity. He's had it with those
awful sick feelings of fear, pain and humiliation. He then decides he is
not going to live like this anymore." Look out! This could be the day
that turns a life around. Call it what you will, the "I've had it" day,
the "never again" day, the "enough's enough" day. Whatever you call it,
it's powerful! There is nothing so life-changing as gut-wrenching
disgust!
2) Decision
Most of us need to be pushed to the wall to make decisions. And once we
reach this point, we have to deal with the conflicting emotions that
come with making them. We have reached a fork in the road. Now this fork
can be a two-prong, three-prong, or even a four-prong fork. No wonder
that decision-making can create knots in stomachs, keep us awake in the
middle of the night, or make us break out in a cold sweat.
Making life-changing decisions can be likened to internal civil war.
Conflicting armies of emotions, each with its own arsenal of reasons,
battle each other for supremacy of our minds. And our resulting
decisions, whether bold or timid, well thought out or impulsive, can
either set the course of action or blind it. I don't have much advice to
give you about decision-making except this:
Whatever you do, don't camp at the fork in the road. Decide. It's far
better to make a wrong decision than to not make one at all. Each of us
must confront our emotional turmoil and sort out our feelings.
3) Desire
How does one gain desire? I don't think I can answer this directly
because there are many ways. But I do know two things about desire:
a. It comes from the inside not the outside.
b. It can be triggered by outside forces.
Almost anything can
trigger desire. It's a matter of timing as much as
preparation. It might be a song that tugs at the heart. It might be a
memorable sermon. It might be a movie, a conversation with a friend, a
confrontation with the enemy, or a bitter experience. Even a book or an
article such as this one can trigger the inner mechanism that will make
some people say, "I want it now!"
Therefore, while searching for your "hot button" of pure, raw desire,
welcome into your life each positive experience. Don't erect a wall to
protect you from experiencing life. The same wall that keeps out your
disappointment also keeps out the sunlight of enriching experiences. So
let life touch you. The next touch could be the one that turns your life
around.
4) Resolve
Resolve says, "I will." These two words are among the most potent in the
English language. I WILL. Benjamin Disraeli, the great British
statesman, once said, "Nothing can resist a human will that will stake
even its existence on the extent of its purpose." In other words, when
someone resolves to "do or die," nothing can stop him.
The mountain climber says, "I will climb the mountain. They've told me
it's too high, it's too far, it's too steep, it's too rocky, it's too
difficult. But it's my mountain. I will climb it. You'll soon see me
waving from the top or you'll never see me, because unless I reach the
peak, I'm not coming back." Who can argue with such resolve?
When confronted with such iron-will determination, I can see Time, Fate
and Circumstance calling a hasty conference and deciding, "We might as
well let him have his dream. He's said he's going to get there or die
trying."
The best definition for "resolve" I've ever heard came from a schoolgirl
in Foster City, California. As is my custom, I was lecturing about
success to a group of bright kids at a junior high school. I asked, "Who
can tell me what "resolve" means?" Several hands went up, and I did get
some pretty good definitions. But the last was the best. A shy girl from
the back of the room got up and said with quiet intensity, "I think
resolve means promising yourself you will never give up." That's it!
That's the best definition I've ever heard: Promise Yourself You'll
Never Give Up.
Think about it! How long should a baby try to learn how to walk? How
long would you give the average baby before you say, "That's it, you've
had your chance"? You say that's crazy? Of course it is. Any mother
would say, "My baby is going to keep trying until he learns how to
walk!" No wonder everyone walks.
There is a vital lesson in this. Ask yourself, "How long am I going to
work to make my dreams come true?" I suggest you answer, "As long as it
takes." That's what these four emotions are all about.
by : Jim Rohn
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