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Angry persons often act out in hate and
will go out of their way to hurt others in the process. They often have
negative thinking patterns and these patterns are displayed to others.
When a person is angry, they easily say that they are better from
others. They often tell others that
you are stupid. Alternatively, you are ugly and no one wants
you.
This is belittling the other person and the angry person often finds
relief. When a person has difficulty dealing with his or her anger they
will often vent their lack the ability to trust others. They are often
suspicious, whining, and often jealous of others. They will act out
disruptively, and retort to disobliging reactions. A person with anger
issues will often try to under mind anyone around them. Telling people
around that they are false, incapable, wrong. These types of people are
no fun to be around and they do need help.
Recently I dealt with a woman that had uncontrollable anger issues. For
no apparent reason she would react to minor issues. Issues such as a
child eating too much or eating something that she envied was enough to
instigate a reaction. Sometimes she was mild in her acts, and other
times she was outrageous. In most instances, she had no foundation for
her behavior; however, there was an underlying source. The woman did in
fact display anti-social behaviors, and often communicated erupting
thinking patterns.
For example, she would say that all men are pigs. She also talked about
leading men on; leading them to her basement and having alligators eat
them alive. The woman was deranged and very sick minded. Now she was
diagnosed with Bipolar – Manic Depression, and Posttraumatic Stress
Disorder. After carefully examining her, I dismissed Posttraumatic
Stress or at most minimized the diagnosed since most of her symptoms
were that of histrionic, anti-social traits. Now the root of her anger
according to her was that the many men she endured relationships with
mistreated her.
This may have been partial reason, but the truth showed when she talked
about her life. She was adopted; therefore, she had a sense of
abandonment. The root her is obvious, since she most likely hated her
parents for tossing her away like garbage. Even if the parents were
justifiable, or rather had a good cause to adopt, she refuses to hear
the other side. Since the woman had ongoing symptoms of this type of
behavior, I noticed that treatment would probably never work since she
was a victim of her own state of mind and in complete denial.
I noticed that the woman had anger deep
within due to her own behaviors. She acted out criminally, writing bad
checks and justifying it. Therefore, the symptoms she endured were
partially her own making. She created her anger and paranoia, therefore
her anger is on her and no one else. Deep inside her heart. However,
angry people will under mind others. For example, the angry person might
say something to the affect: try these diet pills they will help you
loose weight.
Now the
person knows that the target has an area of
self-esteem since she is
normal weight, but thinks she is fat. Therefore, the angered person is
trying to belittle the individual by under minding her. An angry person
will also seek attention and often use negative words. For example, I am
fat. Now the person is waiting for you to tell her that she is
exaggerating. The best thing to do in this instances is do not sit
yourself up for a fall. No matter how many times you tell the person
that she is not fat, or she just needs to drop a few pounds you are
never going to satisfy her mind, since denial is the root.
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