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A great approach for addressing the
problem is confronting Jack in a mild manner if Jack in fact did
something justifying your madness. Another way to deal with anger is
talking you through the madness. Why am I mad? What trip my trigger?
What was I thinking when I blew up? Why can I deal with this problem?
This is self-talk and it works wonders.
Talking to a trusted individual is also
great for dealing with uncontrolled anger. The problem is you need
someone with mental health knowledge. If you are talking to a friend and
he or she says something that makes you anger then another problem is in
the making. It is important to try hard to control your emotions when
you are talking. This will help you to learn self-control if you
practice this each time that you talk. Don’t talk whatever you want
without think first. What we are talking about could make someone hurt.
A great solution is exercise. Exercise has
proven to enhance health, the mind, and the body, as well as controlling
emotions. If you see that you are about to loose control, take a walk,
take a deep breath. Go around the block, or even walk three or four
blocks. The more you exercise the more it helps. You might also want to
go for a bike ride once a week, on Sunday for example. Paddle until your
anger blows through the wind.
Laughing is another great remedy for
relieving anger. If you are angry, try to look at the situation with a
sense of humor. For example, I was ready to blow up the world at one
point due to an incident and injustice. When I was dealing with it, I
literally wrote funnies on paper and laughed uncontrollably at the way I
put things in perspective. Things about what makes you laugh, the event
in the past that you remember mostly. For example, funny event when you
with your friends on holiday in the past.
The truth is if you do not control anger,
it will control you. If you do not want to exercise, create logs, write,
or laugh, then think of this: if you do not take control of your anger
one day you are going to blow up at someone and this person is either
going to attack back and may be more dangerous than you are, and/or you
will be sitting at the local country jail searching for a resource to
bail out. Think of this wisely.
Once you get your buns in the criminal
system, it is difficult to get out. You might pay your fines, spend some
time in jail, hang around the courts for a while, and have someone else
telling you what to do while on probation…this might last for a few
months or years. Now, when you get your mug shot, fingerprints, and
other reports you will see during the course of your life that others
will constantly judge you as a violent source to society. This can
affect your job, family, and life in whole.
Now if anger is a big problem then you
need to sit down and take a look at the consequences of your behaviors.
If you fail to see consequences then you are in very big trouble. Anger
is an emotion that we all share. It is how we deal with anger that makes
or breaks our lives and controls our level of success. If you have anger
issues you might want to read the many reports that are available,
analyze the scientific research for answers, and support to your
uncontrolled anger problems. Anger is good when we are able to use it
wisely and control it. |