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Kelly realizes that her job is creating an
emotional interruption, simply because her skills succeed the jobs
requirements. Kelly realizes that she is underpaid and this is causing
another problem in her life. Kelly’s situation is real, since Kelly
realizes what the problems are and they truly exist in her life.
Now Kelly can procrastinate and allow the
problem to increase rather than reviewing her resources and problem
carefully. If Kelly decides to evaluate her mind, she might decide to
apply for another position or job while continuing to work at her
present job. This will allow her to assume her life and have a steady
flow of income while she waits for a better position. Once she lands a
better career, then she can relax after the rush of the moment has
ended.
However, if Kelly acts out on her
emotions, blows up at the boss and storms out the door. Kelly because of
her anger out burst will not have a job, no money, and her future is at
risk. The boss will be called when she lands another job and will likely
tell the new employers about Kelly’s behavior problems. Therefore, Kelly
did not fix the problem by evaluating her resources and emotions; rather
she added fuel to the fire. As you can see from an example that emotions
out of control and anger in action will increase your chances of failure
and reduce your way in life.
Decisions are an everyday part of life. If
you are evaluating your life and making good decisions, you will almost
never get off the course of life’s journey to success. On the other
hand, we must realize when we are evaluating life that problems will
arise and that we all must face the problems head on. Keeping a good
outlook on life can help you to deal with your anger. If you realize
there is no mountain we cannot cross over then we can see a way out of
trouble.
Let us evaluate mountains. If we are
crossing a mountain, we know we need tools, rope, confidence, and a
strategy to climb over. Likewise, if we are dealing with anger then we
need tools, strategy confidence and hope to endure the road to recovery.
We will only need a rope to hang our self with if we do not learning to
manage our emotions and anger properly. Think of life as a roller
coaster ride where there will be bumps along the way.
In reality, the ride is intense, exciting
and challenging. If you are challenging the potentials by evaluating
your anger and emotions, you are taking control of a rocky situation.
Again, most our problems are stemmed from our own decisions and if we
learn to stop and think before acting we probably will have less
problems along the road to life. If you feel like you are loosing
control, stop and think. Take a few deep breaths and gather your
thoughts and emotions.
Review the situation
in front of you to see if there is a better way
to deal with the
problem. The only real way that anger becomes useful is if you are in a
situation that is risky and there are no way out. For example, if your
five years old son or daughter play with cigarette lighter then you
angry. It’s reasonable and for the good for your son or daughter since
your son or daughter life is in danger. We can think of anger as a good
force or bad force to see that anger either benefits or leads to a major
problem in our life.
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