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Often when a person has anger issues he or
she will attack others whether physically or mentally. The angered
person will often attack in a way that belittles, humiliates, harms, or
threatens another life. This person will need
to learn to control his or
her anger, since everyone around him or her is in a degree of danger,
and sometimes more danger than others.
Anger is
the inability to restrain the impulses, desires and emotions. When a
person is out of contact with his emotions, it often creates a chaotic
mind. When a person is threatened, it is always good to have a degree of
anger to protect. However when a person does not have control then it
can lead to trouble. Anger, sadness, joy and happy are all parts of our
emotions, and when we have those emotions in control we often live a
productive life. Life will never be the same again after we have control
our emotions.
However,
when we seem to a target of attack then it is more difficult for us to
manage our life and anger. For example, some children go to school and
each day a bully will antagonize this child pushing him beyond his or
her control. The child may hold his feelings in for a period, but
eventually he or she is going to loose control, since none of us is
willing to continue allowing someone to make our lives miserable.
Unfortunately, when this child reaches his or her limits and returns the
attack on the child, he then becomes the culprit and is often punished.
The bully too many times gets away with his behavior, and once the
victim takes action he or she is often punished. The school personnel
will often say why didn’t you tell me what was going on? However, the
fact is the child most likely told the personnel and in my experiences,
they rarely act.
Now
we have two children with anger problems and more people in trouble.
This is only one of the many reasons why a person cultivates anger to a
degree of explosion. Each time we are angry we feel it in our body and
mind. Our body will often tense when we feel angry. If you feel this
tension then remember, it is time to step back and take control. Why am
I mad? Why do I feel this way? Asking yourself questions can help you
find the answers if you search your mind hard enough. The key is
REMEMBER.
Usually after a person has developed a level of anger that is out of
control, they will often strike out at persons even if there is no
justifiable cause. The person could have moved something that belonged
to that person and they will react by saying something like you
stupid moron, why in the hell did you move my belongings? I cannot
believe how stupid you are. Why do you bother breathing? This is
only a few examples of a verbal attack issued by an angered person.
The person may attack physically by kicking, hitting, punching,
spitting, or causing other types of harm to the person. In most cases,
anger person will attack mentally and then physically. It is important
to get management in play if you have anger problems. If you cannot
control your emotions then one day, someone will control them for you.
Anger is good if you have it under control, but when you loose control,
someone, someday will pay and that someone in many cases will be you as
well as the trail of victims behind you.
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