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Therefore, instead of beating your self up
review your mistakes and learn from them. If you practice positive
thinking you will fare better when your emotions are threatened, which
means you will have control over your anger. One great way to look at
anger is that it is a positive force, however when it is utilized
inappropriately then it is a negative force. So be careful.
Either we allow our anger to control us,
or we control our anger. Control is what matters to everyone, since if
we do not have control to our emotion then we are frustrated easy. One
great coping strategy is learning self-talk. Take 10 or 15 minutes out
of each day to review your thoughts and talk them over with your self.
If you have a series of negative thoughts, such as I am a failure. Then
you want to ask your self why you are a failure. Introspektive your
self.
Review all the good things you do each day
and commend your self and when you see your mistakes remember everyone
makes mistakes and there are probably no consequences to the mistake you
made. So don’t be angry if you make a mistake. Remember mistake is a
learn process, NOT a failure. If you get angry easy and break things,
or yell and scream, think of the consequences when you are reviewing
your day. If you break things then you made a mess and it needs to be
cleaned up.
This means you have to work an extra few
minutes during the day to clean up your mess. You resolved nothing and
the item you broke if of valuable would cost you when you replace it.
This means you wasted time, energy and money. A failure if always do
that. If you yell or scream when you are angry then you are upsetting
your heart, nerves, mind, and body. This means that in the end you may
have long-term medical conditions. Now you can look at positive anger.
If you take a few short breaths, you might find that your anger is
unjustifiable.
On the other hand, if there is justifiable
cause for your anger you might want to slow down think for a few minutes
and find a way to stress your emotions without interrupting your body,
mind and health. If you think about a person that throws honey instead
of fueling the fire often gets further than those that blow up out of
anger. If you are obsessively running through each day without slowing
down then you need a coping strategy to help you
deal with the stress
and anger.
It is important to set a schedule in
motion for your self so that you find time for you. When you pamper you
then you are taking a step to coping with your anger. When you have,
many tasks set up during a day then make a list of what needs done
first. Do not procrastinate; rather handle one task at a time. When you
finish a task, it is often smoother when handling other tasks. It is
important to remember that you are a human being and that you are not a
superman or woman. You just have two hand and one head.
Another great
strategy is remembered that everything is temporary. If you set your
self up for failure most likely, you will fail. If you believe something
will happen and later find that it did not then you set your self of for
stress. Taking it one day at a time is often the best solution and
repeating this over in your mind daily can help you cope with your
anger. JUST 10 – 15 MINUTES A DAY.
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