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If you are a spontaneous person then you
will need to learn how to cut back on stressors. If you feel pressured
in the morning before going to work, try picking out the clothes you
will wear for that day the following evening.
This will provide you an extra few minutes
during the morning to prepare for work. If you are running like a mad
person to meet classes, then you might want to set up a schedule for
your self that includes time management. This can help you learn to
prepare ahead and stay on top of things without rushing. Instead of
roaming thoughts through your head about what you, need to do each day,
try handling one task at a time.
This works wonders once you practice and continue with your strategy.
When you feel angry, try taking a few deep breaths before you speak. You
may also want to practice exercising since this burns energy and often
reduces your chances of exploding when your emotions are threatened. If
you cannot handle rejections, coach your mind to believe that the person
is not centering you out. Repeat over in your mind that no is a positive
in many cases.
For example, if you are married, you enjoy going to the bar to chat with
your friends, and your husband does not want you to go, and then think
why he said no? Obviously, your husband cares about you since he knows
that danger is potentially high at bars. He does not want you to get
hurt therefore, he is saying no in your best interest. If the bank turns
you down on a loan there is a legit reason. Maybe your credit report
needs some repairing, or maybe they felt you income would not cover the
loan amount.
Therefore, you best interest was at heart again. We all hear no
throughout our lifetime and most times, it is for the best reasons. If
you apply for a job and are turned down, it might be in your best
interest, since the employers felt that your skills were not on the
level that the job required of you. Alternatively, you may be over
qualified for the job and when you are rejected, the employers are
merely saying we do not have the cash to pay you for what you are worth.
Thinking positive is always great for managing anger.
If you are prompt to explode when your emotions are interrupted then it
is difficulty to manage your life. If you are angry most likely, all
areas of your life seem like an uphill travel. When you gain control
this often benefits everyone, including your self. Your life starts to
improve and your mind is thanking you for removing stress from its
cavity. If you are prone to beat your self up when rejections come your
way, you might want to find a positive side of your being and enforce it
in your mind repeatedly.
Practice makes perfect and this is a great way to train your mind so
that you gain control of your mind and anger. If you are frustrated
easily, it is probably because you do not take time out of a day for
your self to relax. There is nothing wrong with relaxing. Therefore you
can sit down for 30 minutes each day and yoga or think of nothing at
all. Finally, we are closing so I wanted to let you know that once you
practice the strategies for
dealing with anger, pat your self on the
back each time you make effort and achieve.
by :
Burt Cotton
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